A Successful Love Story Part 3

There are many theories that suggest we are computer codes running to obtain a single goal. But, at the end of the day, it is best to debunk that theory, for there aren’t a lot of things which are better than free will.

Being the apex predator, we don’t really enjoy being dominated or controlled by someone else. In fact, as soon as we start developing reason, we wish to make our own choices.

In contrast, all of that goes south when one is in a romantic relationship. We choose to make, as well as expect, compromises.

And, while there is nothing wrong in doing something for your loved ones, it is wrong to hurt yourself in order to make them happy. Especially, when you sacrifice your choices, you tend to change to someone different.

Love is, after all, about feeling free. And I’m sure all of us have heard, and I quote,

“If you love something, set it free.”

And that is how it should be. You shall not try to restrict your partner’s choice, and they must do the same. Certainly, you won’t wish to change the one you fell in love with in the first place.

You do get the privilege to advice them about their ’bad’ habits, or poor career options, or the not so good friends. And in fact, you should always let them know about your feelings. But that doesn’t allow you to force it upon them.

In fact, violating someone else’s freedom for your own comfort isn’t a good thing in the first place. A relationship gives you someone to love and share, and not control.